When I do not know what to do in any situation, I get very still and wait. The answer always comes, because it’s deep inside of me (as it is in you). I quiet everything enough to hear and feel it.
Sometimes I have the luxury of time and sometimes I do not. If I have some time before making a decision I have some anxiety around, this is what I do:
1. Every day I catch myself anxiously ruminating I tell myself: “I do not have to make this decision today”. That usually takes some pressure off, since in our heads, everything is imminent
2. I stop talking about it with people that can’t help me. Be careful whose opinion you take (I wish I had known this earlier in life). Ask yourself: Does this person share my values? Do they live a life I would want to live? Do they have what I want and respect? Especially in highly sensitive and anxious situations, make sure you say YES to as many of these questions before speaking about it with anybody
3. I hit my meditation cushion. I concentrate on my breath and quiet my thoughts (which are probably fearful and anxious). I connect with my truest purpose and intention by asking myself these questions:
a. What would my dream be?
b. What would be the decision coming from a place of love instead of fear? See my recent post for more
c. What would serve the greatest good? Always do what serves the greater good of everyone
4. I talk about it with those closest to me. And these are 3 people, at most. It’s my husband, my mom, and maybe one of my dearest friends. These are my peeps, they’ve got my back. They are able to put aside their egos and their fears and seek out what is best for me. No more is necessary
If you don’t have the luxury of time? Well, here’s the deal. The more you do the above, the sharper and stronger you become. When I have to make a decision immediately, I close my eyes, take a breath, and quiet everything within me. I do a mini meditation, observing my breath, and I ask myself what my dream would be, what would be the decision coming from love, and what serves the greatest good. And the answer always comes :)